Conversation has always been the thing that brought men and women together. Communication has been the one thing able to breach the barrier between men and women from the most primitive ages till today. But despite the years of evolution and experience, men and women are still wholly inadequate when it comes to dealing with each other.
Talking about pets, weather and politics are topics that fall short of conversation gold. Conversation is not about who won the elections, its about the person sitting across the table from you who might very well be with you for some time to come. Good conversation leads to second and third dates. Stimulating a man’s mind is very important unless you’re out with the gym jock who can’t pronounce the word “pronunciation”
Now what do you talk about? The answer is, yourself. Don’t go overboard, but do give him an idea of who you are and what you like. Tell him where you went to school and what you’re working as at the moment. Ask questions and let him speak too. A conversation is about two people, not one person endlessly going on about themselves. Practice some restraint and you’ll be alright.
Body language tells a lot about people when they’re talking. A man will sit up straighter and become more animated when talking about something he takes pride in or has confidence about. If he is unsure, uncertain or is apprehensive about a certain topic, he will cross his arms and become more withdrawn.
Now here are the ‘normal’ topics of conversation
Where are you from?
How long have you lived here?
What sports do you like?
What do you work as?
Do you like to travel?
What do you do to relax?
Do you have any hobbies?
These topics will help you get to know your date. But not much else. Lots of people know your date and what he does and what sports he watches. To get him to set you apart and see you as someone special, you have to know how to hit the right spot.
Lets say he’s a lawyer. Instead of asking how much he makes or how many people he handles a day, ask him this: “What kind of cases do you prefer?” or “How do you feel when you get a difficult case?”
These questions will make him light up and talk to you more about what he does and why he does it. Its something he is passionate about. Of course some men don’t really like their jobs so instead of asking them about work, try asking them about their hobbies and apply the same concepts.
Asking the right questions will endear you to him and make him want to see you and talk to you more. If you throw in some mystery and a hint of sexuality, he’ll be practically begging you for a second date.
Its not that hard to have a great conversation with a man. You just have to know how.
Second dates are good, but the main thing you need to know is how to take it to the next level. Its not that difficult!